Judgement vs. Discernment
What do I mean by this? When I researched the difference between Judgement vs. Discernment, it became clear we lack social understanding in our world. We are so quick to judge one another & don’t take the time to understand the person or situation first. Our ego is at play when we sit in judgment instead of discernment.
Read more: Social UnderstandingJudging others closes us off. I try my best to identify, not compare. Our culture is attached to compartmentalizing & comparing. We are not better or worse than anyone else. To avoid the polarization of societies, we try to refrain from condemning people, places & things different from us.
Discernment used correctly allows others to be who they are while doing the right thing for us. We distinguish what is appropriate or not appropriate. We need a good balance & not swing from one extreme to another. Social understanding allows us to see things as they are, not what we wish them to be.
Freedom of Speech
It is difficult these days to speak honestly & freely lest someone judge you for thoughts & opinions. It’s necessary to have a support system or small group of individuals/friends where you can share what is on your mind without judgment & playful bantering allowed. I have that with my husband & close friends.
I love a good argument where we can agree to disagree & nothing more becomes of it. We don’t lose a friendship or love loss from our family/loved ones. Judgment only serves the ego & causes damage to relationships if not kept in check. I catch myself at times judging others & myself. I am my worst critic. To err is human.
I will strive to discern what is good for me & my family. Insight is looking deeper within ourselves & not so much on the outside surface standards, social pressures & opinions of others. We must try not to let our fears, insecurities, jealousy, or ignorance cloud our judgment. Reaction to people, places & things can certainly get us off track.
Compassion & Understanding
In understanding others & ourselves, compassion goes a long way! If we believe we are better or worse than others, we are not showing compassion for them or ourselves. If we seek true inner peace, we must put away judgment & embrace this ever-changing world by being true to ourselves.
I will conclude with these last thoughts. My circle is small & selective. If someone is affecting me negatively or potentially draining me, I limit my time with them. I refrain from judging, keeping in mind what is good for me & my family. Social understanding allows you to assess & learn from others what NOT to do. For more blogs on judgment I’ve encountered click link: http://zenspirit.us/2022/06/01/working-from-home-together-as-a-couple/